JANUARY 2014 - Ending the blame and complain game


“I can’t do this anymore. I quit. What’s the use? My life is so miserable.”
Throughout my personal journey in life, I know I have said one or all of the above expressions that evolved out of circumstances and problems I could do nothing about. I have learned that when my mind is focused on my problem, that is my problem. 

A great biblical example would be in the story of the Israelites walking around the desert, continually focused on blaming and complaining about all the things they didn’t have, rather than trusting and thanking God for the miracles of provision already received. The journey into the Promised Land was filled with unhappy people whose negative mindset kept them in bondage while they were desperate for freedom. But what can we do to correct this same kind of mindset in our own lives?

Self-awareness - recognizing wrong thinking accompanied by a bad attitude - plays a major role towards change. For example, many times I have caught myself saying, “It’s not my fault!” But does the fault always lie with the other person if I’m in debt, have a bad marriage, or I’m overweight? Blaming seems to be the easy way out, but in fact, it is rooted in self-pity, saying, “Look what they have done to me!” God gives each of us responsibility to make right choices in every area of our lives. Other people’s choices are not our problem.  The Bible reminds us that the truth will set us free, and our breakthrough comes when we are willing to learn the truth about ourselves.

In Luke 19:1-9, we find a very short man named Zacchaeus who runs ahead of the crowd, climbing a tree in order to see Jesus. He was short, but he was persistent. His reward came as Jesus looked up and invited himself to the house of Zacchaeus, a sinner in the eyes of the people. Did you ever wonder why Jesus looked up into the tree? I believe the spirit of Christ was enticed by the spirit of determination.  

Let us be tenacious in making a resolution for 2014 that says no matter what difficulty we face, let it not become an excuse for blaming and complaining. Instead Ephesians 1:3-5 challenges us to “Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved usand offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.

God bless you with a new you in this new year! 

Philipians 3:13-14
Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.